The initial postpartum period is a delicate time for new parents and their newborn, as they navigate the joys and challenges of early parenthood. One aspect that requires thoughtful consideration is the influx of well-wishers and visitors eager to meet the newest addition to the family. Deciding your stance on visitors during pregnancy can help your postpartum period go a little smoother. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page. If you think it will be helpful, inform your family and friends of your plans ahead of time. Let's explore how to create a supportive environment for postpartum visitors, both for parents and baby, by covering the Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How.

Who: Selecting Your Postpartum Guests

IMMEDIATE FAMILY

Emotional and practical support from immediate family members is important during the postpartum period. It's crucial to consider family dynamics and relationships to ensure positive contributions from visits.

CLOSE FRIENDS

True friends can be a source of comfort and joy. Invite friends who understand the importance of a relaxed atmosphere and who can provide emotional support rather than add stress.

RESPECTFUL EXTENDED FAMILY

While extended family may be eager to meet the new baby, prioritize those who will respect your boundaries and contribute positively to the postpartum environment.

What: Setting Expectations for Visitors

CLEAR COMMUNICATION

Communicate your expectations and boundaries clearly with potential visitors. Let them know if you prefer shorter visits, specific times, or certain guidelines, such as handwashing before holding the baby.

HELPFUL GESTURES

Encourage visitors to bring practical items or offer assistance. Meals, groceries, or helping with household chores can be more meaningful than gifts.

When: Timing Is Everything

IMMEDIATELY AFTER BIRTH

Some people enjoy having visitors as soon as possible. They will gladly let people know when the baby is born and if they’re in a hospital setting, will let them know the visiting hours! At home births, some people let their desired visitors know when the birth is getting close and invite them over.

SOME TIME LATER

There are parents who prefer to bond with their baby first. They will take a couple of days or weeks to fortify that bond and get to know their baby before inviting others into their space.

 

Where: Creating a Comfortable Setting

BIRTHING LOCATION

Having people visit you at your birthing location can be convenient if you plan on having visitors as soon as possible. Hospitals and birthing centers will have set visiting hours and regulations for visitors. Make sure you and your intended visitors are clear on what these are.

HOME SWEET HOME

Hosting visitors at home can provide a familiar and comfortable environment for both you and the baby. This allows you to be at ease and prioritize rest.

OUTDOOR MEET-UP

If weather permits, suggest outdoor meetups or walks. Fresh air and a change of scenery can be refreshing for everyone.

Why: The Importance of Postpartum Boundaries

PRIORITIZE REST

The primary focus during the postpartum period should be on rest and recovery. Knowing your stance on visitors and having those you truly want near you, keeps you at ease. Rest is more easily achieved when you are comfortable.

EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING

Striking a balance between social interactions and personal space is crucial for emotional well-being. Protecting your mental health and nurturing the parent-child bond should be top priorities.

How: Navigating Postpartum Visits & Mental Health

SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES

Be honest in communicating your needs and boundaries. Most visitors will appreciate your honesty and respect your wishes. They will be happy to accommodate!

DELEGATE RESPONSIBILITIES

If possible, delegate someone to help manage visitors, allowing you to focus on your well-being and the baby. This can also be a great time to ask visitors for a helping hand. When people inevitably ask, “Can I bring you anything?” say YES! You can have people bring over food, pick up some grocery items or pick up older kids from school. That can be a great way to use your village to help you and will help the visitor feel helpful and appreciated.

The postpartum period is a time to celebrate!

Having visitors after giving birth can be a wonderful experience if you manage it thoughtfully. By carefully selecting who visits, setting clear expectations, choosing the right timing and location, and prioritizing your well-being, you can create a positive postpartum experience for both yourself and your newborn. Remember that it's completely acceptable to prioritize your needs and those of your family during this precious and vulnerable time.